1) What is tantric massage?
The intention of a Tantra massage is to engage your erotic energy but, instead of sexualizing it, the aim is to use the breath to pull that energy out of your genitals to experience full-body eroticism. This technique of harnessing one’s sexual energy originated centuries ago in the East to improve one's sexual vitality, stamina, and libido. My goal is to provide a safe space for you to be raw, naked, and vulnerable so you can expand your erotic self and build a more fulfilling sex life.
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2) Is Tantric massage for me?
Because the term ‘tantric massage’ is often used as a euphemism for a sexual (jerk-off) massage, I want to be clear that this is not what I’m offering. My aim is to give you a true, therapeutic, tantric experience. That said, my sessions do involves engaging your erotic energy so you need to be comfortable being stimulated by another man. The objective is to breath yourself into an elevated erotic state but, instead of ending it with orgasm, the goal is to keep breathing and pulling your erotic energy through your entire body. So many men limit their sexual desires to their genitals and orgasms and never learn to expand their eroticism to their whole body. Tantra is learning how to luxuriate in a state of full-body ecstasy.
3) I'm not sure I'll be able to breath the way you want me to.
The breath is crucial to having a full tantric experience. This type of massage is not a passive experience. The most important ingredient in achieving a higher tantric experience is the breath. I can only eroticize you to the extent that you’re willing to breath. Without the breath to disperse your erotic energy, the session will be sexually frustrating. The breath is not complicated: a strong inhalation of filling your belly and chest and then a passive exhalation. It’s a continuous loop of one breath after another with no pause in between. I’ll start the session by guiding you until you get into a nice rhythm. Admittedly, it’s more work, but as your erotic energy builds and starts moving through your body, you’ll find it easier to breathe. Also, I will be coaching you. The more you breathe, the higher we can take the massage. By learning to circulate your eros, you can increase your capacity to feel pleasure: a skill that can greatly enrich your own personal sex life. Remember, the better lover you become, the better lovers you’ll attract.
4) What can I expect?
Our bodies store lots of past experiences. Tantric touch can bring up a variety of experiences: ecstasy, guilt, grief, joy, anger, tears, lust. In a session you may go through one, none, or all of these feelings. It's different for everyone. Best to come with an open mind and see what does (or doesn't) happen.
5) I'm overweight and not sure I'm comfortable being nude.
I've seen all kinds of men in all their lovely nakedness. Most of us have something we don't like about our bodies: our bellies, our weight, the size of our cocks. My tantric sessions are an excellent way to just to enjoy your naked body — just as it is. Your body shape has little to do with how erotic and sexy you can feel. That block comes from your head. My job is to create a safe space where you can let go and celebrate your erotic self.
6) I'll probably get turned-on. Is that alright?
It's perfectly desirable to get turned-on. The intent of a tantric massage is to keep you in a prolonged state of arousal (about 80%) — but not to bring you to ejaculation. Once there, I’ll be encouraging you to ride that edge by continuously deep-breathing and dispersing your erotic pleasure through your whole body.
7) If I don't ejaculate won't I be crazily horny?
Instead releasing, the goal of a tantric massage is to move your erotic energy through the rest of your body. At first, this concept of not ejaculating may seem counter-intuitive. When aroused, most men are so overwhelmed with the urge to climax that they can't consider anything else. Not that ejaculation is bad - but it depletes your energy, making it almost impossible to get back on the tantric path. By exaggerating the breath, it's possible to integrate your eros differently. Remember this is a different ‘therapeutic’ erotic experience. Come with an open mind.
8) Won't I get blue balls?
I understand your concern - blue balls can be painful. Ejaculation, however, is not the only way to bring relief. In a tantric massage, the breath is crucial in pulling the energy out of your genitals. Also, I’ll be using specific massage strokes designed to disperse the blood/energy flow out of your cock and balls. After a session, most men want to savour the energy we created together instead of blowing it off. It’s important that you come with an eagerness to breath. This is not sex and if that is what you’re looking for — both you and I will be disappointed. Instead of a sexual partner, consider me a mentor guiding you into a deeper erotic experience of yourself. If you’re open to use your erotic energy in a different/therapeutic way — the rewards will be great and blue balls will not be a problem. Also know, that once you’re home, you’re free to do whatever you want with this energy.
9) I've never had and an erotic experience with another man before.
It's understandable to be nervous if this is your first male to male experience. Although this isn't a sexual encounter, you need to be comfortable working erotically with another man. My tantric massage is not about connecting sexually with me, but about exploring and expanding your erotic self. I have experience with all different types of men: straight, trans, gay (and limited experience with women and heterosexual couples). Everyone comes for different reasons and with different limitations. Before we start, I’ll sit down with you to establish the boundaries you're comfortable with. Know that the massage doesn’t have to be a certain way for me. It’s your session - take as much or as little tantra as you desire. The most important element is that you feel safe and comfortable.
10) I'm not very flexible. Will that make a difference for the yoga part?
The foundation of my work is giving a really great massage. If you’re not interested in a tantric session, know that you can come for a really great standard massage. I have been doing therapeutic massage for years and have developed a very original and effect technique. My stretching, combined with deep bodywork, is a fantastic way to release locked tension in the hips, buttocks and lower back. Don't worry if you're not super flexible. I will only take you to your limit and massage you there. If you haven’t already, make sure to check out my video.
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11) Prices
60 minutes — $95 90 minutes — $130 120 minutes — $175
12) Contact info
Phone/text: 416-961-8064 Email: kshortt@eagle.ca
